Dealing with Arguments in Relationships Arguments in relationships are completely normal. The success of your relationship doesn't depend on how many disagreements you have, but on how you deal with them. When your partner is upset about something, it helps to...
Discussing Relationship Needs Have you ever said something like “I need more time to myself!” then got a reply that was so far from what you needed to hear that you just gave up? I know how frustrating this can be, so let's talk about how to discuss...
Relationship Changes After Having A Baby Are Very Common Becoming a parent is a big deal and it usually changes people, often in ways they don’t expect. We're all used to having various roles in life from son/daughter, brother/sister to friend or colleague....
How To Protect Your Relationship Every couple disagrees. And it’s normal for more of those disagreements to turn onto arguments once we have children and have to make so many more joint decisions. The success of your relationship depends on how you approach those...
Family Rituals Christmas is coming! For those of us who celebrate, that probably means lots of family rituals, like choosing and decorating a tree, wrapping and exchanging presents, and enjoying lots of festive foods and drink. Family rituals provide us with a sense...
Couples counselling is amazing, and the thing I hear most often about it is “I wish we’d gone sooner!” But asking for help isn’t always easy, and the prospect of inviting a stranger into our most private conversations can feel quite daunting. It’s very common for one partner to be ready to call a counsellor while the other is still unsure about it. So if you’re wondering how to get your partner to go to couples counselling, you’re not alone. Here are a few pointers to help you if you’ve been struggling with how to get your partner to go to couples counselling.
Happy Thanksgiving! Let’s think about how to show your partner you appreciate them We don’t celebrate Thanksgiving here in the UK, which has always struck me as rather sad. It’s a great opportunity to think about how to show your partner you appreciate them. I know...
It’s World Kindness Day 2020. We know kindness matters. We tell our kids to be kind. But how kind are you, really, to the person you have chosen to spend your life with, on a day-to-day basis? How friendly are you? How generous? How considerate? Do you ask them how...
It's International Stress Awareness Week 2020 This week has been International Stress Awareness Week, so let’s think about your stress levels, how you understand them, and what you can do about them. Stress is what happens when the demands of a situation outstrip our...
We all know that it's important to make time for intimacy with our partners if we want to have lasting, satisfying relationships. But with our busy lives, work, family, homes, and all the jobs that need doing, sometimes we can get out of the habit of making time for...
Feeling "Touched Out" And What To Do About It If you’ve ever felt - at the end of a long day caring for little ones - like you just couldn’t bear to be touched one more time, you know what it is to feel “touched out”. If this is something that either you or...
Notes From The Mother Box Podcast Before we get into the cycle of rejection, I just want to tell you about a podcast you can catch me on. Notes From The Mother Box is a new podcast from midwife Alexis Stickland and doula Beccy Hands, bestselling authors of The Little...
So you want to get your sex life back on track? You know it’s normal for sex to drop down the agenda when you have a baby, but it’s been months - maybe even years - and you’re starting to worry. Right now, honestly, sex is something that brings you more stress than...
When I was 10 years old, we lived in a house with interesting neighbours. I remember on the day we moved in, the mother walked into our new home and announced, “we mostly keep ourselves to ourselves”. In my experience, people who describe themselves as an open book...
How have your stress levels been lately? Stress is the reaction that happens when we feel that the demands of a situation outstrip our resources to cope. So I think most of us can say that our stress levels have been higher than usual at least some of the time over...
The global pandemic is putting huge pressure on everyone, especially couples with kids at home. As well as coping with the uncertainty and anxiety, many of us have lost work, childcare, and the comfort of our usual routines. Being in lockdown together presents a...
I've been thinking a lot about all of you - whether you are a past, present, or prospective client - and how you might be coping with our current very difficult situation. I wanted to let you know about how I have adapted my service in line with the government...
Happy New Year! How was your Christmas break? I hope it was restorative, with a chance for reflection and some thought about your intentions for the new year - and perhaps even the next decade. I also know that it was likely tiring, largely fuelled by sugar and...
Speaking Events: The Mother Fair This Weekend I have a number of speaking events coming up this autumn in Brighton and Hove. Firstly, this Saturday 14th September I'm going to be at The Mother Fair, an event for new and expectant mothers, speaking about relationships...
The next Relationship Goals 2.0 on CURIOSITY is coming up this Thursday 1st August! Relationship Goals 2.0 is a relaxed event in a room above a pub, where parents have fun together while learning about the skills and habits that couples need to be really happy...
Just a quick reminder that the first ever Relationship Goals 2.0 is happening this Thursday evening 4th July! Relationship Goals 2.0 is a new event for parents in Brighton and Hove who want to make their relationships the best they can be so that they can have the...
