About Catherine

My approach to individual and couples counselling

My name is Catherine Topham Sly and I am a warm and welcoming professional counsellor, writer, and speaker.

I work with adult individuals and couples who want to make changes and feel better – in Brighton and Hove and online .

If you decide to come for counselling with me, whether on your own or with a partner, we will work together to make sense of your problems and find a way forwards.

I will give you the space to tell your story and unravel your thoughts and feelings. I will listen not only with empathy but also with an objective distance that enables me to make links you may not have noticed.

I will offer my ideas to you with an open mind. This way we can think together about what you need and how you can get it.

Through my training and experience – professional and personal – I have a deep understanding of the range of difficulties that bring people to counselling. I also have a great respect for anyone who is brave enough to face their struggles and explore what they can do about them.

Often I think the core aim of counselling is best summed up by the serenity prayer. If you are looking to achieve serenity (or something close to it!) by accepting the things you cannot change, finding the courage to change the things you can and finding the wisdom to know the difference, therapy can help you on that path.

The best way to find out whether I would be the right therapist for you would be to book a consultation but if you would like to know a little more about my background first, please read on.

Catherine Topham Sly’s Professional Background

My academic background is in linguistics, the scientific study of language. I took a particular interest in psycholinguistics and sociolinguistics: what the things we say and how we say them tell us about ourselves and how we relate to others.

After University I worked at a communications consultancy. I managed people and projects and developed my listening skills as a market research focus group facilitator and trainer. I enjoyed the work but found the corporate world unfulfilling so in 2011 I started training as a counsellor.

In 2018 I decided to combine my expertise on what makes healthy, satisfying relationships with my workshop leadership skills. I started writing Relationship Goals 2.0, the regular event for parents in Brighton and Hove which launched in July 2019. Relationship Goals 2.0 is a relaxed event where parents learn the skills and habits that keep couples close while having fun together in a room above a pub.

When the Coronavirus pandemic hit I wanted to do something to support young families in lockdown together, so I released the online course Love in Lockdown which is still available and recommended to any couple who finds themselves getting into conflict when under stress.

I have a postgrduate Diploma in Counselling and Therapy from Northbrook College, Sussex and am an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy working to their ethical framework.

2019 – Certificate in Emotionally Focussed Couple Therapy, EFT International School

2017-2018 – Certificate in Clinical Supervison, The Rock Clinic

2017 – Certificate in Working with Couples, The Link Centre

2014 – Transactional Analysis 101 Certificate, Northbrook College

2012-2014 – Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling and Therapy, Northbrook College

2011 – NCFE Level 2 Award in Helping Skills, City College Brighton and Hove

2011 – CPCAB Level 2 Award in Introduction to Counselling Skills, Varndean College

2003-2006 – BA Hons Linguistic

2016 – Present Counsellor in private practice, Insight and Connection (formerly Hove Counselling and Therapy)

2013-2018 Counsellor, Rock Clinic Association, Brighton

2006 – 2010 Workshop facilitator and trainer, Space Doctors, Brighton

2018 Accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

2016 Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

So many things were helpful

So many things were helpful that it is hard to choose just one. Most helpful was probably how compassionate you were towards me. This slowly helped me shift the way that I relate to myself. Counselling felt like a very safe and warm space, in which I could  look at myself with more kindness and allow myself to express feelings and needs. This has helped me personally as well as making me more open in my relationships with other people, privately and at work. Thank you Catherine. The two years with you have meant a lot to me and have changed me in many ways.

October 2020

I could not have asked for a better independent witness to my story

I could not have asked for a better independent witness to my story than Catherine. As she joined me on my journey she was kind and supportive. Encouraging me to see things in a different light. I will probably return at some stage; Catherine's instinctive approach and skill of picking out key elements in my narrative helped me make sense of things at this difficult time for me. Thank you. Everything was clear & straight forward. Which is no mean feat when you are operating in a global pandemic!!

August 2020

Catherine always remained calm and collected

Catherine always remained calm and collected even during times filled with conflict in couples therapy. She managed to bring back my then boyfriend to a calmer state and I felt like she was standing up for me when I couldn't. I felt like I had a good bond with her and trusted her so that I could open up in front of her.

August 2020

I feel I am in a very different place

One of the most useful things about going to counselling was learning so much about myself. I feel I am in a very different place from when I first started and I owe it to the support and help which Catherine offered. I will not rule out returning if I feel I need to, but for now I feel happy with the place I am in.

July 2019

I really found the whole experience really helpful

[What was most helpful about your counselling?] “Having a different perspective on my situation and what I was going through. Talking through how I was feeling and then being directed by Catherine to look at things in a different way and make connections to other parts of my life and relationships helped to make sense of things. I really found the whole experience really helpful and exactly what I needed at the point I was at. Thank you for your help.

June 2018

She helped me through the fog of self doubt

Catherine describes herself as a demystifier – and she is. But not just of psychobabble. She helped me through the fog of self doubt, delusion, depression that clouded me in a difficult period of my life. And in place of fog she helped install the ropes and tackle I needed to climb onto dry land, out from the cold, and find a seat back by the fire. But equally, she possesses a superpower (and a useful one for a therapist): she has an off-the-chart ability to listen. To make you hear her listening, to adjust the quality of silence you sometimes need to say what you didn’t know you were going to say, to make you feel heard. Her empathy is palpable; yet I’ve never once felt patronised. Most extraordinary is that she does all this without judgement or prejudice, but with sincerity and good humour. It’s pretty much the perfect combination and I can’t think of anybody who wouldn’t benefit from talking to Catherine. And I can’t thank her enough.

January 2018

You were excellent

Thanks for all your help. I will be in touch if I need to in the future. You were excellent.

November 2017

Catherine was wise and supportive

Catherine was wise and supportive, picking out elements of my story and helping me see things in a different way. I will probably return at some stage; Catherine has been very kind and helpful at a difficult time in my life.

August 2017

The help you’ve given me has been invaluable

I just want to say a huge thank you for the past year. The help you’ve given me has been invaluable and I’ve learnt so much about myself, my past, and my relationship to the wider world. Your guidance and help will stand to me for the rest of my life and I’ve made so many positive changes in the past year, a lot of which I feel I owe to you. Thank you so much for everything.

May 2017

Thank you

I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your help and understanding.

January 2017