Feeling "touched out" is a common experience for caregivers, leaving them overwhelmed and craving personal space. It's important to understand that this feeling is less about touch, and more about giving and receiving. To remedy this, engage in nurturing physical...
Having kids can strain relationships, but open communication, prioritising time together, showing appreciation and affection, and practicing patience and forgiveness can help strengthen bonds. If difficulties persist, seeking professional help from a relationship...
Do you feel like you're too busy to maintain your relationship? Stretched for time and feeling the impact on your relationship? Maintaining your relationship when busy with work and kids can be a challenge. Here's the good news: research has found that how we...
Many couples feel trapped in a cycle of rejection when trying to navigate emotional and physical intimacy after having children. To understand and break this cycle, couples need understanding, empathy, open communication, and sometimes professional guidance....
Parenting Disagreements It's normal to have parenting disagreements, but life is much easier when couples find a way to parent as a team. Let's look at why we argue about parenting, and how you might be able to approach those conversations more constructively....
Intimacy Issues After Kids Are you looking to increase intimacy in your relationship? Perhaps you've been feeling disconnected since having kids, and wan't to know how to get that spark back? It's really normal for your sex life to take a hit and to experience...
How To Stop Arguing About The Same Thing Do you and your partner keep arguing about the same thing and just want to stop? The key to getting unstuck and moving forwards in your relationship lies in understanding the difference between perpetual problems and...
Sex and Motherhood: Reclaiming Your Body The messages are everywhere: sex is for men, women are for men's sexual pleasure... and what about sex and motherhood? Do mothers feature at all? Lots of men and women still struggle - at least on some level - to...
Relationship Problems Are you here because you've been having relationship problems? Sometimes, when we're going through a rough patch, it can be hard to work out exactly what the problem is. These are some of the most common relationship problems, and some new...
Lost The Spark After Having Kids? Do you feel like you and your partner have lost the spark since having kids? Let's look at why couples lose their emotional and physical connection, how you can reignite the spark and enjoy more intimacy. Having children...
Sometimes despite our best intentions to raise difficult issues gently, things can escalate. Arguments can quickly become stressful and unproductive, especially when we're stuck in painfully familiar patterns. Most of us don't get taught how to deal with horrible...
Is there something going on in your relationship that's bothering you? Are you unsure how to address it? Firstly, by looking for a way to talk about it, you're doing the right thing. John Gottman has been doing research with couples for 40 years, and he has found that...
Idealism vs. pragmatism: how people and cultures can heal and grow “Should” One of the first things they teach trainee therapists to look out for is the word “should”. When you sit with people who are struggling, you hear it a lot. “I know I should call my parents...
Different Parenting Styles And Your Relationship Different parenting styles often lead to conflict between couples. Let's look at some of the typical differences between parents, and how to approach them in ways which keep everyone feeling as happy and close as...
This blog post explores the differences between spontaneous and responsive sexual desire, emphasising that women often need more time, emotional connection, and physical contact to ignite their desire. It offers insights on improving communication between partners and...
The Mental Load: The Fantasy “Girls are raised to romanticise taking on the mental load.” Elizabeth Earnshaw For the most part in our culture, girls are brought up to romanticise both the remembering and executing of the tasks that keep a family going....
Here’s a typical situation that happens in many couples after they have children. (I’ve used the pronouns for the most common pattern in straight couples, but this happens in other ways too.) Sex After Kids: Her Experience The kids take up most of her energy.She gets...
Sharing Parenting Responsibilities Did you go into parenthood planning, expecting, or at least hoping for a balanced partnership, with the two of you sharing parenting responsibilities equally? Our generation wants to leave behind the gender roles of old and do...
Sex in marriage and long-term relationships can easily become routine if it happens at all, especially after kids come along. Let’s look at why routine sex in marriage is so common, and what you can do to keep the spark in your connection. Sex In Marriage: How...
Have you ever heard that therapists are only interested in your past? This is a common misconception. Some therapists are particularly interested in in how your past impacts who you are today. My approach takes a balanced view, giving equal importance to all things...
Sex After Parenthood - It’s Good For You And Your Relationship Let's talk about sex after parenthood. Firstly let's remember that good sex is good for you. It's good for each of you as individuals, and it's good for your relationship. If you and your partner...
