Having kids can strain relationships, but open communication, prioritising time together, showing appreciation and affection, and practicing patience and forgiveness can help strengthen bonds. If difficulties persist, seeking professional help from a relationship therapist or coach can provide valuable guidance and support for a thriving family life.
How To Save Your Relationship After Having Kids
Having children is undoubtedly a life-changing experience. As a couple you’ll share so many joyful moments… and it can also put a strain on your relationship. The demands of parenting, lack of sleep, and changes in priorities can all take a toll on your partnership. But take heart – there are things you can do to save your relationship after having kids. In this blog post, I offer some tips and advice on how to strengthen your relationship and make it through this challenging time.
1. Communicate Openly And Honestly
Communication is key in any relationship, but it’s especially important after having kids. When you find ways to talk openly and honestly with your partner about how you’re feeling and what you need, your relationship will thrive. If you find yourself struggling to ask for help or support from each other when you need it, talk about that too. It gets easier with practice.
2. Prioritise Time Together
Most parents get caught up in the demands of parenting sometimes – this is normal. And at the same time, if your relationship matters to you, it’s important to prioritise time together as a couple. Regular date nights are great if you can make them happen. If you can’t get out, schedule time together at home without screens. And take it in turns to take care of the kids so that each of you can each have some time for yourself too.
3. Show Appreciation And Affection
If you want to stay close, it’s important to show your partner that you appreciate them and still find them attractive. Simple acts of affection like holding hands, hugs, or remembering to say “I love you” can go a long way in strengthening your connection. Talk to each other about the things you’re grateful for, both in each other and in general. And remember to keep touching and kissing even – or especially – if you’re not having sex.
4. Practise Patience And Forgiveness
When you’re tired and stressed, you’re bound to get frustrated and irritated with your partner. Practising patience and forgiveness will get you through this. Remember that you’re both going through a challenging time. If you’re struggling to approach each other with kindness and understanding, think about what you need to get back to being your most generous self.
5. Seek Professional Help
If you’re struggling to make progress on your own, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A relationship therapist or coach can provide valuable insight and advice on how to navigate the challenges of parenting while maintaining a strong relationship. Love Happy Live Free was specifically created to teach you all the skills you need to have a happy relationship and a thriving family life.
How To Save Your Relationship After Having Kids
Having kids can be a wonderful and fulfilling experience, and it can also be a challenging time for your relationship. By communicating openly, prioritising time together, showing appreciation and affection, practising patience and forgiveness, you can strengthen your connection. When this isn’t enough, please don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help to save your relationship.
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