On Britishness, Therapy, and Abortion

On Britishness, Therapy, and Abortion

Idealism vs. pragmatism: how people and cultures can heal and grow “Should” One of the first things they teach trainee therapists to look out for is the word “should”. When you sit with people who are struggling, you hear it a lot. “I know I should call my parents...
Types of Sexual Desire: Male Vs Female?

Types of Sexual Desire: Male Vs Female?

“The standard narrative of sexual desire is that it just appears – you’re sitting at lunch or walking down the street, maybe you see a sexy person or think a sexy thought, and pow! you’re saying to yourself, ‘I would like some sex’… But...
The Mental Load of Motherhood

The Mental Load of Motherhood

The Mental Load: The Fantasy “Girls are raised to romanticise taking on the mental load.” Elizabeth Earnshaw   For the most part in our culture, girls are brought up to romanticise both the remembering and executing of the tasks that keep a family going. Look at...
Sex and Intimacy: What Comes First?

Sex and Intimacy: What Comes First?

Here’s a typical situation that happens in many couples after they have children. (I’ve used the pronouns for the most common pattern in straight couples, but this happens in other ways too.) Sex After Kids: Her Experience The kids take up most of her energy.She gets...