Relationship Issues

Are you struggling with relationship issues?

I specialise in working with individuals and couples who want to improve their relationships. (This includes your relationship with yourself!)

Are you having trouble in your relationship(s) with family, friends, colleagues, or a partner? I can help.

How does it work?

Have you ever heard the saying that before you can love anyone else you need to love yourself?

Well that may or may not be completely true, but my experience has shown that resolving your relationship issues and feeling better starts with getting to know, understand, and accept yourself. It leaves you more open to getting to know, understand, and accept others.

Communication gets easier and life gets more satisfying.

How do we get there?

Different things work for different people at different times, so I take a flexible, integrative approach. It mostly involves talking, because talking will help you make sense of stuff, feel better, and become a better communicator. All of that will help your relationships.

You’ll become a better listener, too, whether you come as a couple or on your own. It’s easier to listen to other people when you’ve got your own stuff straight in your head.

I find it can be really helpful to look at:

  • the impact of your early experiences on who you are today
  • how you feel and what you are going through right now
  • your fears, hopes, and dreams for the future

I am interested in all three, and don’t value any one above the others.

What’s relationship issues therapy like?

I have had counselling myself, both on my own and as part of couple, so I know how scary and overwhelming it can feel to get started. You might be concerned about what will be expected of you, or wondering if there are things that you shouldn’t talk or ask about.

Therapy works best when you feel free to talk about everything, including the experience itself, what it’s like for you and what you want from it. I am a person too and you can trust me to be real with you, and to keep our discussions confidential.

On the other hand you might be worried that going for counselling is, or will make you, self-indulgent. Actually what tends to happen is that we talk a lot about your relationships, how you feel about them, what you want and need from them, and what you can do to change them so they work better for you and the people you care about.

There’s nothing self-indulgent about spending time working out how you can get on with people better!

Relationships can be hard work. They are also vital for our survival and provide us with some of the best moments of our lives. I would love to have the opportunity to see what I can do to help you make the best of yours.

So many things were helpful

So many things were helpful that it is hard to choose just one. Most helpful was probably how compassionate you were towards me. This slowly helped me shift the way that I relate to myself. Counselling felt like a very safe and warm space, in which I could  look at myself with more kindness and allow myself to express feelings and needs. This has helped me personally as well as making me more open in my relationships with other people, privately and at work. Thank you Catherine. The two years with you have meant a lot to me and have changed me in many ways.

October 2020

I could not have asked for a better independent witness to my story

I could not have asked for a better independent witness to my story than Catherine. As she joined me on my journey she was kind and supportive. Encouraging me to see things in a different light. I will probably return at some stage; Catherine's instinctive approach and skill of picking out key elements in my narrative helped me make sense of things at this difficult time for me. Thank you. Everything was clear & straight forward. Which is no mean feat when you are operating in a global pandemic!!

August 2020

Catherine always remained calm and collected

Catherine always remained calm and collected even during times filled with conflict in couples therapy. She managed to bring back my then boyfriend to a calmer state and I felt like she was standing up for me when I couldn't. I felt like I had a good bond with her and trusted her so that I could open up in front of her.

August 2020

I feel I am in a very different place

One of the most useful things about going to counselling was learning so much about myself. I feel I am in a very different place from when I first started and I owe it to the support and help which Catherine offered. I will not rule out returning if I feel I need to, but for now I feel happy with the place I am in.

July 2019

I really found the whole experience really helpful

[What was most helpful about your counselling?] “Having a different perspective on my situation and what I was going through. Talking through how I was feeling and then being directed by Catherine to look at things in a different way and make connections to other parts of my life and relationships helped to make sense of things. I really found the whole experience really helpful and exactly what I needed at the point I was at. Thank you for your help.

June 2018

She helped me through the fog of self doubt

Catherine describes herself as a demystifier – and she is. But not just of psychobabble. She helped me through the fog of self doubt, delusion, depression that clouded me in a difficult period of my life. And in place of fog she helped install the ropes and tackle I needed to climb onto dry land, out from the cold, and find a seat back by the fire. But equally, she possesses a superpower (and a useful one for a therapist): she has an off-the-chart ability to listen. To make you hear her listening, to adjust the quality of silence you sometimes need to say what you didn’t know you were going to say, to make you feel heard. Her empathy is palpable; yet I’ve never once felt patronised. Most extraordinary is that she does all this without judgement or prejudice, but with sincerity and good humour. It’s pretty much the perfect combination and I can’t think of anybody who wouldn’t benefit from talking to Catherine. And I can’t thank her enough.

January 2018

You were excellent

Thanks for all your help. I will be in touch if I need to in the future. You were excellent.

November 2017

Catherine was wise and supportive

Catherine was wise and supportive, picking out elements of my story and helping me see things in a different way. I will probably return at some stage; Catherine has been very kind and helpful at a difficult time in my life.

August 2017

The help you’ve given me has been invaluable

I just want to say a huge thank you for the past year. The help you’ve given me has been invaluable and I’ve learnt so much about myself, my past, and my relationship to the wider world. Your guidance and help will stand to me for the rest of my life and I’ve made so many positive changes in the past year, a lot of which I feel I owe to you. Thank you so much for everything.

May 2017

Thank you

I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your help and understanding.

January 2017