When you’re thinking about starting counselling, choosing someone to call can be really difficult.
You might be looking for someone to talk to because you’ve been feeling anxious or depressed.
Maybe you’ve been having trouble with your relationships.
Or perhaps for you it’s something harder to define. Maybe you have a feeling that something just isn’t quite right with your life.
Whatever it is, I can help.
I am a deep believer in the idea that things don’t have to be bad to be made better.
And when things are bad, and they get better, it’s always worth looking at how they can be even better than that!
That’s why my aim with everyone I work with is for them to not just gain relief from their anxiety or depression. It’s not just for them to get on better with the people in their lives.
It’s for them to understand themselves better. To understand their relationships better. To get in touch with how they feel and what they need. To work out what they need to do to live their lives in a way that satisfies them.
What kind of counsellor?
I am a BACP accredited integrative counsellor based in Hove.
I have been working with adults who have come for counselling for a variety of different reasons since 2013. What they have all had in common is a desire to make changes and feel better.
Integrative counselling is a model which combines approaches, so I don’t get hung up on thinking about what’s bothering you in one particular way.
It means I can look at what’s going on with you from a number of different angles. So together we can makes sense of what you’re feeling and work out what you can do to feel better.
It’s a flexible approach. I’m looking to see the world through your eyes. But I’ll share my perspective too.
About Insight & Connection
Insight & Connection is about how you can understand yourself and other people better so that you can have more satisfying relationships, and ultimately feel better.
It’s not about navel-gazing.
We will think about
- how your early experiences influenced who you are today
- how you feel and what you are going through right now
- your fears, hopes, and dreams for the future
If you’ve never had counselling before, it’s normal to be concerned about what it might be like.
You might be wondering if anything will be expected of you. Or maybe you’re unsure what it will be ok for you to talk or ask about.
At Insight & Connection my aim is to demystify the process. We want you to feel able to talk freely about everything, including your therapy. So you’re welcome to ask me questions, and I’m always keen to hear what has and hasn’t been helpful.
You might be worried that going to counselling is self-indulgent. Or maybe you’re wondering what might happen if you spend time talking about yourself.
In fact, most people find that therapy helps them to understand how they’re feeling and what they need. Then they learn to communicate those feelings and needs more effectively.
This, and seeing more clearly the changes they want to make in order to live a more fulfilling life, often has a positive impact on people’s relationship
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Making the decision to contact a counsellor is rarely easy.
Remember that life is challenging and upsetting for everyone at times.
Sometimes the very best thing you can do is to get some help working out a way forwards.
The process of finding a counsellor can feel overwhelming. But in doing so you are taking a big step towards gaining a better understanding of yourself and living your best life.
It would be a privilege for me to go with you on that journey.
So many things were helpful
So many things were helpful that it is hard to choose just one. Most helpful was probably how compassionate you were towards me. This slowly helped me shift the way that I relate to myself. Counselling felt like a very safe and warm space, in which I could look at myself with more kindness and allow myself to express feelings and needs. This has helped me personally as well as making me more open in my relationships with other people, privately and at work. Thank you Catherine. The two years with you have meant a lot to me and have changed me in many ways.
I could not have asked for a better independent witness to my story
I could not have asked for a better independent witness to my story than Catherine. As she joined me on my journey she was kind and supportive. Encouraging me to see things in a different light. I will probably return at some stage; Catherine's instinctive approach and skill of picking out key elements in my narrative helped me make sense of things at this difficult time for me. Thank you. Everything was clear & straight forward. Which is no mean feat when you are operating in a global pandemic!!
Catherine always remained calm and collected
Catherine always remained calm and collected even during times filled with conflict in couples therapy. She managed to bring back my then boyfriend to a calmer state and I felt like she was standing up for me when I couldn't. I felt like I had a good bond with her and trusted her so that I could open up in front of her.
I feel I am in a very different place
One of the most useful things about going to counselling was learning so much about myself. I feel I am in a very different place from when I first started and I owe it to the support and help which Catherine offered. I will not rule out returning if I feel I need to, but for now I feel happy with the place I am in.
I really found the whole experience really helpful
[What was most helpful about your counselling?] “Having a different perspective on my situation and what I was going through. Talking through how I was feeling and then being directed by Catherine to look at things in a different way and make connections to other parts of my life and relationships helped to make sense of things. I really found the whole experience really helpful and exactly what I needed at the point I was at. Thank you for your help.
She helped me through the fog of self doubt
Catherine describes herself as a demystifier – and she is. But not just of psychobabble. She helped me through the fog of self doubt, delusion, depression that clouded me in a difficult period of my life. And in place of fog she helped install the ropes and tackle I needed to climb onto dry land, out from the cold, and find a seat back by the fire. But equally, she possesses a superpower (and a useful one for a therapist): she has an off-the-chart ability to listen. To make you hear her listening, to adjust the quality of silence you sometimes need to say what you didn’t know you were going to say, to make you feel heard. Her empathy is palpable; yet I’ve never once felt patronised. Most extraordinary is that she does all this without judgement or prejudice, but with sincerity and good humour. It’s pretty much the perfect combination and I can’t think of anybody who wouldn’t benefit from talking to Catherine. And I can’t thank her enough.
You were excellent
Thanks for all your help. I will be in touch if I need to in the future. You were excellent.
Catherine was wise and supportive
Catherine was wise and supportive, picking out elements of my story and helping me see things in a different way. I will probably return at some stage; Catherine has been very kind and helpful at a difficult time in my life.
The help you’ve given me has been invaluable
I just want to say a huge thank you for the past year. The help you’ve given me has been invaluable and I’ve learnt so much about myself, my past, and my relationship to the wider world. Your guidance and help will stand to me for the rest of my life and I’ve made so many positive changes in the past year, a lot of which I feel I owe to you. Thank you so much for everything.
I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your help and understanding.