Love In Lockdown

How are you coping with being in lockdown?

Have you been feeling the pressure of being in lockdown with your partner and kids?⁣

Maybe you’ve been feeling tense, overwhelmed, irritated? ⁣

Meanwhile, perhaps you’ve been having stressful conversations or arguments?⁣

Is this making you worry about how you’re going to get through the next few months?⁣

Or perhaps it’s making you worry about the state of your relationship?⁣

My name is Catherine Topham Sly and I’m a therapist specialising in relationships, and particularly the challenges of staying close while raising a family together.⁣

All couples get stuck in patterns that aren’t serving them well sometimes. But luckily there is loads of research into what you can do to break the patterns that frustrate you both. This way you can create new ones which bring you pleasure, joy and connection.⁣

I usually share the findings from this research in talks I give in a room above a pub.⁣

However, none of us are going to the pub right now. So I have taken this online with my new course Love In Lockdown.⁣

Love In Lockdown – The Online Course

⁣I have cherry-picked the content from my series of talks which will be most useful to support you right now. ⁣

That is to say: it will give you the perspective and skills you need to feel more relaxed and in control of this situation.⁣

The course is made up of a series of short videos, which you can watch on your own or with a partner.⁣

Moreover, there is a PDF to accompany each one. So it includes over 30 prompts to help you to process what you’re going through, and make changes in your relationship.⁣

Click here to sign up for Love In Lockdown now for just £40.⁣

None of us chose this situation, but all of us have a choice about how we face it.⁣

I’m going through this too, and I know exactly how it feels on the worst days: frightening, overwhelming, too much.⁣

The last thing you need right now is to feel disconnected from your partner.⁣

You can turn this crisis into an opportunity: to invest in yourself and your relationship, learn some new skills, and come through this stronger than ever

So many things were helpful

So many things were helpful that it is hard to choose just one. Most helpful was probably how compassionate you were towards me. This slowly helped me shift the way that I relate to myself. Counselling felt like a very safe and warm space, in which I could  look at myself with more kindness and allow myself to express feelings and needs. This has helped me personally as well as making me more open in my relationships with other people, privately and at work. Thank you Catherine. The two years with you have meant a lot to me and have changed me in many ways.

October 2020

I could not have asked for a better independent witness to my story

I could not have asked for a better independent witness to my story than Catherine. As she joined me on my journey she was kind and supportive. Encouraging me to see things in a different light. I will probably return at some stage; Catherine's instinctive approach and skill of picking out key elements in my narrative helped me make sense of things at this difficult time for me. Thank you. Everything was clear & straight forward. Which is no mean feat when you are operating in a global pandemic!!

August 2020

Catherine always remained calm and collected

Catherine always remained calm and collected even during times filled with conflict in couples therapy. She managed to bring back my then boyfriend to a calmer state and I felt like she was standing up for me when I couldn't. I felt like I had a good bond with her and trusted her so that I could open up in front of her.

August 2020

I feel I am in a very different place

One of the most useful things about going to counselling was learning so much about myself. I feel I am in a very different place from when I first started and I owe it to the support and help which Catherine offered. I will not rule out returning if I feel I need to, but for now I feel happy with the place I am in.

July 2019

I really found the whole experience really helpful

[What was most helpful about your counselling?] “Having a different perspective on my situation and what I was going through. Talking through how I was feeling and then being directed by Catherine to look at things in a different way and make connections to other parts of my life and relationships helped to make sense of things. I really found the whole experience really helpful and exactly what I needed at the point I was at. Thank you for your help.

June 2018

She helped me through the fog of self doubt

Catherine describes herself as a demystifier – and she is. But not just of psychobabble. She helped me through the fog of self doubt, delusion, depression that clouded me in a difficult period of my life. And in place of fog she helped install the ropes and tackle I needed to climb onto dry land, out from the cold, and find a seat back by the fire. But equally, she possesses a superpower (and a useful one for a therapist): she has an off-the-chart ability to listen. To make you hear her listening, to adjust the quality of silence you sometimes need to say what you didn’t know you were going to say, to make you feel heard. Her empathy is palpable; yet I’ve never once felt patronised. Most extraordinary is that she does all this without judgement or prejudice, but with sincerity and good humour. It’s pretty much the perfect combination and I can’t think of anybody who wouldn’t benefit from talking to Catherine. And I can’t thank her enough.

January 2018

You were excellent

Thanks for all your help. I will be in touch if I need to in the future. You were excellent.

November 2017

Catherine was wise and supportive

Catherine was wise and supportive, picking out elements of my story and helping me see things in a different way. I will probably return at some stage; Catherine has been very kind and helpful at a difficult time in my life.

August 2017

The help you’ve given me has been invaluable

I just want to say a huge thank you for the past year. The help you’ve given me has been invaluable and I’ve learnt so much about myself, my past, and my relationship to the wider world. Your guidance and help will stand to me for the rest of my life and I’ve made so many positive changes in the past year, a lot of which I feel I owe to you. Thank you so much for everything.

May 2017

Thank you

I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your help and understanding.

January 2017