Just a quick reminder that the first ever Relationship Goals 2.0 is happening this Thursday evening 4th July! Relationship Goals 2.0 is a new event for parents in Brighton and Hove who want to make their relationships the best they can be so that they can have the...
Have you heard about Relationship Goals 2.0? It's a new event for parents, expectant parents, and those considering parenthood, in Brighton and Hove. We're going to get together in a private room above a pub and talk about what love looks like on the other side of...
As a relationship issues specialist counsellor, I help individuals and couples to deal with all kinds of relationship problems. This article is about perpetual problems: those pesky relationship issues that just won't go away. All Relationships Have Problems...
The time after a baby arrives can be really challenging for both mothers and fathers. It's a time of great transition for each of you personally, as well as for your relationship. To feel prepared for this, it's helpful to think ahead about your postnatal mental...
I am pleased to announce the launch of Staying Close After Baby, the relationship workshop for expectant couples. Did you know that 67% of couples report feeling very unhappy with each other within 3 years of becoming parents? But it doesn't have to be that way! So...
If you're in a relationship - and you want it to last and be satisfying for you both - you probably like the idea of healthy interdependence. What exactly that looks like and how to achieve it, though, might not feel so straightforward. You and your partner might well...
It's Christmas...!!! Ugh. How do you feel about Christmas? December can be really tough. It's a frenzied crescendo that some people adore. Others find it really difficult. And most fit somewhere in between. There's a lot of fuss, which for some people is frustratingly...
Walk and Talk Therapy I am pleased to announce that I am now offering Walk and Talk Therapy! Are you are interested in trying counselling? But don't fancy spending another hour of your week sitting down? Walk and Talk Therapy could be for you. At my office in Hove...
Welcome to my new website! When you're looking for a counsellor, you'll often get asked what's bringing you for counselling, and why now. You might be suffering with stress, anxiety, or depression, for example. Counselling really helps with difficulties like these....
Relationship Problems Every couple experiences relationship problems. And sometimes when you're going through a rough patch it can be difficult to work out exactly what the problem is. Here are six statements that you will have heard or said about relationship...
Beyond Conflict Resolution When I ask couples what they want to get from counselling, their top two wishes are usually to improve communication, and to stop arguing so much. They just want to get on better. And couples counselling can really help with that. But to...
Separation Counselling What is separation counselling? Isn't couples counselling all about making it work? If your relationship has broken down, you might be considering your options. Perhaps you have been thinking about trying couples counselling. On the other hand,...
Thinking About Depression When I think about depression and low moods, and how to find a way out of them, I look at at three things: feelings, thoughts and actions. As an integrative counsellor I consider both the causes of depression and the approach to getting...
Talking therapy like counselling is still a bit of a mystery to many people. You might have questions like: Does talking therapy work? How? I feel terrible! How will talking about how bad I feel possibly make me feel better? I recently read a fantastic book by Susan...
Sometimes despite our best intentions to raise difficult issues gently, things can escalate. Arguments can quickly become stressful and unproductive, especially when we are stuck in painfully familiar patterns. Most of us don't get taught how to deal with horrible...
Is there something going on in your relationship that's bothering you? Are you unsure how to address it? Firstly, by looking for a way to talk about it, you're doing the right thing. John Gottman has been doing research with couples for 40 years, and he has found that...
"Do I need counselling?" It's a question lots of people ask themselves at one time or another. Maybe you have been through a tough time lately. Or perhaps you just haven't been feeling great. There are lots of reasons to try counselling. It has been proven to help...
When We Need Self-Care Ideas Often I work with people who have been struggling with depression and/or anxiety for a long time. Maybe you have felt like this too: been in survival mode, feeling like you're all over the place, just about coping. Managing to get through...
One of the ways that counselling works is by offering a framework for you to make sense of yourself, your life and your difficulties. When you understand yourself better, you start to feel better about yourself, which is often one of the main aims of people coming for...
Lots of people think about it for a while before they decide to contact a counsellor. You know it will take up time, and cost money. Although you must be feeling some discomfort or pain or you probably wouldn't be looking, questions hang over you: What will I get from...
I’ve been a fan of Brené Brown since I first saw her TED talk The Power of Vulnerability. Brené is a research professor and storyteller with a background in social work. Her research and writing mostly focuses on vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. I...
